There’s a memory that often comes back to her.  It’s the summer before college and she’s in the car with a high school friend and the friend’s younger sister.  She doesn’t remember how the conversation started, but to the horror of the sister she disclosed that she didn’t think that she wanted to do the house, marriage, husband babies thing.  Even at 18 years old and without the words to describe it, she knew that her future would take a different path.